published June 3rd, 2014
It’s important to remember that the romance of your wedding day shouldn’t end as soon as you’ve cut the cake and fled the dance hall. You still have the joys of your honeymoon to look forward to. Well, that’s if you booked yourself a honeymoon. It’s not a legal obligation to married life, but it’s certainly advisable. A honeymoon gives you that much needed “breathing space” between the trials and tribulations of wedding planning and starting your new life together as a married couple. It’s a time to chill, relax, unwind, reflect and look to the future. We all need to take stock and refuel at times, and especially after making such a huge life event.
Many couples now live together prior to tying the knot, a practice that was once frowned upon by many… that is now frowned upon by not so many. If you’re embarking on co-habitation for the first time then the honeymoon is also a great opportunity to “test the waters” so to speak. Not that you can now file for divorce because you’ve discovered that the partner you’d planned to spend the rest of your life with actually snores like a constipated warthog… but it may be the first insight into what it’s like to actually live with the love of your life.
The first thing you need to ascertain is exactly where you both want to go for your honeymoon. You could pin a world map on the wall, don a blindfold and stick a pin somewhere, like some bizarre rendition of Pin the Tail on the Donkey… but that’s probably not the best method of selecting a desirable honeymoon location - especially if you stick the pin in a rather “undesirable” part of the world. There’s a few, but we won’t name them.
The best way forward is to sit down together and discuss where you’d like to go. If you both agree on the same place then you’re laughing. However, if one of you wants to honeymoon in the Canadian mountains and the other wants the hustle and bustle of a busy city like New York then you may need to compromise.
You should both make a list of locations that you want to visit, and the chances are that somewhere on both your lists the same location will crop up twice. Remember, you plan to marry this person so there’s a good chance that you’ll have similar mindsets when it comes to taking vacations. Unless you’re like chalk and cheese in everything you do.
One of you may enjoy lounging on the beach all day, while the other might be a “sun-shunner” who favours hiding under a tree or experiencing culture by visiting various museums, galleries or exhibitions.
Take the top two or three destinations on your lists and then make another list featuring the pros and cons of honeymooning there. There may even be things out of your control that rule out certain locations straight away, such as weather, wars or other unforeseen circumstances that will prevent travel. An unlikely scenario, but one that should be looked at in greater detail before you book.
If you rarely venture outside of your hometown without getting a nosebleed and don’t really have a clue where you want to go, then here’s a few suggestions:
Current hot honeymoon destinations include: The Dominican Republic, Thailand, or smaller European cities like Rome or Barcelona. Both desirable locations, and notably cheaper than cities like London or Paris.
You may want to abandon the whole honeymoon thing altogether and opt for a “minimoon” which is basically a scaled down honeymoon that’s closer to home and for a shorter period of time. It may be that work prevents you from taking a “full scale” honeymoon, especially if you’re both running a small business. So you might be itching to open your laptops again, to see how many orders you’ve lost as a result of sunning yourself on the beach for a week.
Once you’ve decided on a location you need to plan what you’re going to do while you’re there. Many restaurants allow you to just show up on the night you wish to dine, but other very popular eateries may be taking bookings several weeks in advance. Most tourist attractions will also demand a bit of forward thinking. For example you can’t just show up on Liberty Island and expect to ascend to the crown of the Statue of Liberty with a standard ticket. You should really investigate on the Internet beforehand as they generally take bookings several months in advance.
When you book your hotel room be sure to inform the agent that it’s your honeymoon, so the staff can endeavor to make your stay extra special. Befriend the hotel concierge and let them know about any desires like concert tickets or restaurant reservations. The more notice they have then the better it will be for everyone.
Finally, don’t forget that you brought the romance with you. Plan a little surprise for your partner to show them that romance is still alive and kicking. Perhaps book a hot-air balloon ride followed by a champagne breakfast, or have a guitarist serenade them at dinner. Use your imagination.