Tips to Calm Wedding Nerves
published February 17th, 2014
If your wedding day is several months away then you’re probably far too busy with preparations and planning to feel the least bit anxious or nervous about how you might feel on the big day itself. Right now your primary concern is who (or who not) to invite, choosing a dress or writing the story of how you met for your wedding website without using the words “and the rest is history”.
Then before you know it you find yourself pacing the room, biting your nails, waking up in a cold sweat at 3am or hyperventilating at the very sight of a wedding dress (and that’s just if you’re the groom). Yes, those pesky wedding day nerves have hit you, and you’ve no idea how you’re going to get through this without resembling a red-faced, stuttering, crying, quivering wreck in front of your nearest and dearest. When the bride turns to you and says “Get it together, man!” you know you have a problem.
So how do you combat these last minute wedding nerves and get through the ceremony looking as cool as a cucumber?
Aside from asking someone to give you a good slap you may wish to consider these tips…
Keep a lid on that adrenaline
Take a deep breath. You need to control the adrenaline that’s pumping through your body. That’s what’s giving you that “butterfly” sensation in your stomach. Close your eyes, imagine you’re standing beside a calm blue ocean and listen to soothing music. The fluttery feeling should soon subside if you increase the length of time you try this each time you start feeling anxious. It’s mind over matter.
If you have a faith then pray for peace of mind. If you don’t have a faith then pray anyway - what have you got to lose?
Phone a friend
Sometimes all we need is some reassurance from a loved one. Call your parents or a close friend and tell them how you feel. Spend time with friends doing things that have nothing to do with wedding preparations, like going bowling or watching a movie - ideally not “Bridesmaids”.
Get plenty of rest and relaxation
Be sure to get plenty of rest on the night before your wedding. Don’t sit up until 2am drinking coffee or you’ll be buzzing all night and total wreck in the morning.
Indulge in some pre-wedding pampering. Book yourself into a spa or beauty salon, slap on a face mask and get your nails done. You’ll feel all the better for it.
Don’t do it!
Those nerves will evaporate overnight if you just call the whole thing off.
You’ll most likely regret that one, so be sure not to let the nerves wrestle you into making that decision!
You may wish to try out some herbal remedies several days prior to your wedding in case they don’t agree with you. They’re available in many forms, such as chewable pastilles and liquid drops. They might be just the ticket to getting you down the aisle with a smile on your face.
This is really a last resort for brides and grooms who are feeling the nerves. You need to tread carefully here as that little “medicinal tipple” can lead down a slippery path, and you really don’t want to end up falling flat on your face quicker than you can say “I do!”