Wedding Thank You
published August 12th, 2014
When you’re showered with gifts on your wedding day then it’s only polite to say “Thank you” to everybody for selecting and purchasing (or even spending countless hours making) their offering. Even if it’s not something you actually wanted…
You might acknowledge the gift bearer (upon receipt of the present) on your big day, but a verbal “Thank you” doesn’t carry as much weight as the written word.
Don’t forget that there’s a lot going on at a wedding ceremony and reception. Dozens of people to meet, greet, hug, kiss, or simply give a firm handshake. With so much going on (and a million things racing through your mind) you may even forget your manners altogether and not utter the words “Thank you” to anyone. Even if you do express your thanks, with so much noise and several conversations going on at the same time, the giver may not even hear you.
Suddenly you realise that some of you closest friends are no longer taking your calls, replying to your messages or even “liking” your Facebook status updates. Simply because they went out of their way to select your gift, went into their overdraft facility to pay for the gift and they didn’t even receive a “Thank you”. Not to mention the fact that they drove 300 miles and sacrificed the last day of their vacation in the Bahamas to actually attend your wedding! Suddenly you’re now the rudest and most ungrateful individuals in the world and your friendships are hanging by a thread.
This is why a personal, handwritten “Thank You” letter (or card) to all your guests should be at the top of your “To Do” list upon your return from honeymoon. In this digital age handwritten letters from loved ones are treasured. So updating your Facebook status to read something along the lines of “Thanks everyone…” or sending out a mass e-mail simply isn’t good enough. Of course giving thanks online is a nice gesture, but it should be in addition to your letter and not a substitute.
You may think you’re doing your bit for the environment by not ordering those “Thank You” cards, but that tree’s been dead for a long time and you sending a few cards won’t make much difference in the great scheme of things.
So how does one word a “Thank you” note? Well, you don’t need to be a wordsmith, but sitting down to write a handwritten note can be a daunting prospect to some. Especially if you’re not accustomed to writing letters.
Your best bet is to keep it simple and brief. You don’t need to give the recipient your life story or anything too cheesy and sentimental by pouring your heart and soul into it. This is a “Thank You” note, so you’re basically thanking the recipient for attending your wedding and/or blessing you with an ice cream maker (or something along those lines).
Include a few sentences in which you thank the guest for the specific gift, indicating what you especially like about it and what you might do with it. So “Thank you so much for the canvas print of New York City, it brings back many happy memories and will adorn our wall for many years to come!”
Perhaps write a rough draft of what you wish to say first. This can be typed if that makes life easier, so words can be moved around and deleted with ease. Once you’re happy with the draft you can simply copy it verbatim. If you attempt to write the letter in your finest handwriting from the offset then you’ll probably find your wastebasket filling up quite quickly. Correction fluid isn’t really the way forward here.
Spread the letter writing out over several days and don’t try and cram it all into one evening. If you attempt to write letters to everyone in one sitting then the first few will flow, but you’ll soon find yourself making mistakes and the quality of your handwriting will diminish over the course of several hours. No doubt your hand will go numb and your wrist will ache and you’ll start resenting all these people for giving you presents.
If you do write the letters/cards/notes over the course of a few days (or weeks) just make sure you post them all at the same time. Otherwise you’ll have friends receiving theirs before others, and you don’t wish to ruffle any feathers.
Closing a letter can be tricky, but it’s best to close the card with “Love” for family and friends, and “With All Best Wishes” for parents’ colleagues and friends. For such a personal event using something like “Kind regards” or “Sincerely” just seems too formal.
They say manners don’t cost anything, but on this occasion you should be prepared to fork out for a few nice cards and some postage stamps. Your friends and family will thank you for it.